Sisters! Watch your sister’s back

TEXT: 1Kings 3:16-28

Introduction:

If God should ask you today “where is your sister”? How would you answer Him? The way we handle relationship amongst each other as Christians, should be exemplary to the unbelieving world. Surprisingly, we see worse today in our midst. This sincerely calls for a check. God has called us to watch over one another. Watch our backs for one another. Gen 4:9.

Today, Christian sisters don’t bother about what happens to the next sister as long as it is well with themselves alone. So many of our sisters have been subjected to pains, shame, ridicules and mystery because of fellow sisters’ mischief. May God help us! The passage we read displayed two women who were both harlots; which means they were in the same profession, working together, but something went wrong. One was careless and she slept on her child to death, not wanting to lose out, decided to play a fast one on her sister, she quietly turned the dead child to her sister’s side and took the living child.
What! That’s wicked!
Sisters can go a long way to work against themselves in order to cover up the evils that they have done. Hey! Hold it there have you forgotten that the evil that men do live to catch up with them?

The Text: 1Kings 3:16-28
16 Now two women who were harlots came to the king, and stood before him.
17 And one woman said, “O my lord, this woman and I dwell in the same house; and I gave birth while she was in the house.
18 Then it happened, the third day after I had given birth, that this woman also gave birth. And we were together; 4no one was with us in the house, except the two of us in the house.
19 And this woman’s son died in the night, because she lay on him.
20 So she arose in the middle of the night and took my son from my side, while your maidservant slept, and laid him in her bosom, and laid her dead child in my bosom.
21 And when I rose in the morning to nurse my son, there he was, dead. But when I had examined him in the morning, indeed, he was not my son whom I had borne.”
22 Then the other woman said, “No! But the living one is my son, and the dead one is your son.”
And the first woman said, “No! But the dead one is your son, and the living one is my son.”
Thus they spoke before the king.
23 And the king said, “The one says, ‘This is my son, who lives, and your son is the dead one’; and the other says, ‘No! But your son is the dead one, and my son is the living one.’ ”
24 Then the king said, “Bring me a sword.” So they brought a sword before the king.
25 And the king said, “Divide the living child in two, and give half to one, and half to the other.”
26 Then the woman whose son was living spoke to the king, for hshe yearned with compassion for her son; and she said, “O my lord, give her the living child, and by no means kill him!”
But the other said, “Let him be neither mine nor yours, but divide him.”
27 So the king answered and said, “Give the first woman the living child, and by no means kill him; she is his mother.”
28 And all Israel heard of the judgment which the king had rendered; and they feared the king, for they saw that the iwisdom of God was in him to administer justice.

A: LET US SEE WHAT SISTERS DO AGAINST THEMSELVES:

  1. BETRAYAL… v16
    They were harlots, same line of profession, knew each other’s secrets, weaknesses and strengths. They must have trusted themselves at one point or the other. How would she have believed that her friend will turn over a dead child to her side and taken over the living one to herself?
    Daylight robbery!
    Sisters snatch husbands, friends, etc. from one another.
    Sisters deny one another, mothers in law fighting daughters in law over one issue or the other that you as a woman you could pass through or aware that these issues are women issues, wherein you could stand with your fellow woman to resolve but no! You join the band wagon to wage war against your fellow woman.
    No ma! It should not be.
  2. DENIAL….. V22
    The wicked friend denied the truth.
    Most times, sisters deny issues to make the fellow sister face shame and ridicule even when they know the truth.
    Why won’t you come out with your weakness or failure and let those who are experts in your field help you out. Your imperfection or failure is not a disease. It simply shows that you don’t know how to do it and you can learn thereafter to become an expert from those who know.
    Every problem has a solution. You just have to search for it.
  3. DISRESPECT AND DISHONOUR FOR WOMEN VALUES:
    God has created us uniquely. What I don’t know or know how to do may be where you are an expert. That is why we must come to one another’s aid.
    Bad enough, she betrayed and lied against her friend before the king, she sold her friend out totally not minding the consequences that might follow. All she wanted was a judgement from the king that will put the two of them at the same level. “Childless”.
    What happens to pain of delivery? Not funny! Both of them had just experienced child delivery. The labour and the pain involved. She had an equal experience and knew the gravity of the pain involved and yet she wanted her fellow sister to…. hah! Why?
    Sisters! Please!
  4. NO COMMUNICATION, NO FELLOWSHIP, NO LOVE: v20
    If there is fellowship, if there is true love she would have come out with her sister to let her know what had happened. Who says she can’t give birth again, who says you can’t get a better job, who says there is no place at the top for you? Who says you can’t get another husband, must it be the one your friend already possesses?
    Roman 12:9-10
    “Let love be without hypocrisy: abhor what is evil: cling to what is good.
    Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honour give preference to one another.

B: WHAT SISTERHOOD ENTAILS AND SHOULD BE PRACTICED

  1. ADMONISH ONE ANOTHER: pro. 27:6
    Faithful are the wounds of a friend but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. Jesus and Judas Iscariot relationship readily comes to mind.
    Wouldn’t you rather help nurse a friend’s wounds to heal than cause injury that brings pain?
  2. FORGIVENESS: Do not render evil for evil. If your friend offends you. Call her attention to it.
    If you don’t forgive, scriptures say your offering/service is not acceptable. Hear Jesus say in Matthew 5:23-24
    23 Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you,
    24 leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
    That is how heavy the issue of forgiveness is before the Lord.
  3. SUPPORT: Do not look out for your sisters’ downfall.
    Paul says to the Ephesian church as I say to our sisters today.
    8-14. Asking us to walk in the light and in verse 15 – 21 asking us to walk as wise.

Walk in Light
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light.
9 (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth),
10 finding out what is acceptable to the Lord.
11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.
12 For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.
13 But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.
14 Therefore He says: “Awake, you who sleep, Arise from the dead, And Christ will give you light.”

Walk in Wisdom
15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise,
16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17 Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is.
18 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,
19 speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord,
20 giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
21 submitting to one another in the fear of God

  1. PRAISE: Give your sister a boost. Do not magnify your sister’s weakness.
    Do you know the story of our brother Onesimus in the Bible?
    8 Therefore, though I might be very bold in Christ to command you what is fitting,
    9 Yet for love’s sake I rather appeal to you—being such a one as Paul, the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ—
    10 I appeal to you for my son (A)Onesimus, whom I have begotten while in my chains
    11 who once was unprofitable to you, but now is profitable to you and to me.
    12 I am sending him back. You therefore receive him, that is, my own heart,
    13 whom I wished to keep with me, that on your behalf he might minister to me in my chains for the gospel.
    14 But without your consent I wanted to do nothing, (B)that your good deed might not be by compulsion, as it were, but voluntary.
    15 For perhaps he departed for a while for this purpose, that you might receive him forever,
    16 no longer as a slave but more than a slave—a beloved brother, especially to me but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.
    17 If then you count me as a partner, receive him as you would me. 18 But if he has wronged you or owes anything, put that on my account.

Onesimus was a slave to Philemon. Stole from him, ran away, contacted Paul, heard the good news, got converted and became useful to the Kingdom. Paul sent him back to Philemon with a letter of approval, for Philemon to forgive and accept him. Asking Philemon to put onesimus charge on him if there be any. What! Not magnifying onesimus’ evil past but recommending him for a better future. You know what? Onesimus became a Bishop. He took over from Timothy as the second Bishop of the Ephesian Church.
Give your sister a boost please!

  1. PRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER. James 5:16

16 [a]Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

  1. CARRY YOUR SISTERS BURDEN.
    Have some human feeling ma.
    Check out the response of that woman who owns the living son in our text 1 Kings 3:23-26 and the other callous woman.

23 And the king said, “The one says, ‘This is my son, who lives, and your son is the dead one’; and the other says, ‘No! But your son is the dead one, and my son is the living one.”
24 Then the king said, “Bring me a sword.” So they brought a sword before the king.
25 And the king said, “Divide the living child in two, and give half to one, and half to the other.”
26 Then the woman whose son was living spoke to the king, for she yearned with compassion for her son; and she said, “O my lord, give her the living child, and by no means kill him!”

But the other said, “Let him be neither mine nor yours, but divide him.”
What!! divide him? It wouldn’t be yours neither mine. What!
No compassion, no human feelings? You had better not be a christian ma!
Such a thing must not be mentioned amongst us. A christian sister must be compassionate like Jesus our master. Mathew 9:36

“But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion on them, because they fainted, and were scattered abroad, as sheep having no shepherd”. Follow after Christ I beg you ma.

Burden Bearing is also shown in the life of our sister Dorcas in Acts of the Apostles 9 : 36-43.
Dorcas carried her sisters burden. She died. Before her family could show up, other sisters took care of her remains.
Her body would have left to decay if she was a bad or wicked woman.
Others sisters had means to bring her back to life, they didn’t hesitate.
They sent delegates to Peter to come without delay. They testified to her good character and selflessness.
Peter had no choice than to pray to his God. Guess what? God responded. Yes. God heard and responded to Peter for the cry of other saints (sisters) on Dorcas’ behalf.
Are you learning something ma?
Note sisters!

THE KING IS WISE:
When we betray, deny, disrespect, lie and cause pain to our fellow sisters, the King is wise to judge. 1Kings 3:27. ” So the king answered and said, ” give the first woman the child and by no means kill him. She is the mother”.
Our God is a righteous Judge. Be careful not to move in the way of God. You can’t be a log in the wheel of progress of a child of God. You can’t withstand the outcome. She may be delayed by your antics but God will not deny her.
I advise our sisters to be on the Lord’s side. The benefits are enormously incomprehensible.

Conclusion:
The society believes that women gossip one another, backbite, and betray more than the male gender because of complexity and decadency in our value system, women are at the mercy of men for almost everything a woman stands for. I disagree ma. God has made us uniquely and for His divine purposes. We just have to search within and find those potentials in us and deploy them. A lot of women are doing great for themselves. They do not have to ride on the downfall of their fellow sisters to rise.
God is still in the business of blessing women as much as He is blessings men. Find your cutting edge and fan it to flame. The sky is the starting point of God given potentials in your life to soar.
Let us all watch our backs for one another. Learn how to uphold our worth and values. This way, the women figure would not be thrown into reproach.
Shallom! Shallom!!

Writer:
Pst. (Mrs.) Ashe Favour Olabisi Caroline
FGC Ogbe District Headquarters Church,
24/26, Obakhavbaye Street,
Off Plymouth Road,
Benin City,
Edo State,
Nigeria

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